Childhood Scripts

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Reprogramming Stress-Producing Childhood Scripts

I walk down the street.
There is a hole.
I don’t see it.
I fall in.
It isn’t my fault.
It takes a very long time to get out.

I walk down the same street.
There is still a deep hole.
I pretend not to see it.
I fall in.
I pretend it’s still not my fault.
It takes a long time to get out.

I walk down the same street.
There is still the same deep hole.
I see it.
I fall in anyway.
It’s a habit.
I get out quicker this time.

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole.
I see it.
I walk around it.
I don’t fall in.

I walk down a different street.

Ninety percent of our entire psychological self is basically formed in the first three years of life. The love, attention, and experiential contact with the world from conception through the first few years of life can be the foundation of a psychologically well-balanced, adult life. But the converse is all too often the case.

Many of the psychological problems that plague us in adult life and cause us stress on a daily basis are the result of early childhood scripts written by our experiences at those earlier times. These negative programs were then reinforced innumerable times over the years resulting in a conditioned pattern of maladaptive behavior very resistant to change. The more severe the psychological insult was in youth the more of a negative impact it may have in adult life. That is not to say that seemingly minor psychological stress in earlier life can’t have devastating effects when combined with certain other circumstances and conditions.

Very early childhood trauma, particularly those events that are difficult to remember, seem to be very resistant to resolution. But psychotherapeutic techniques can make dramatic improvements. There is nothing we can do about changing the past. But there are many techniques that can provide insight into the past conditioning of our present maladaptive behavior and unhappiness. There are also many techniques available to decondition this programming and build new, more adaptive, healthier behaviors. For those self-motivated individuals who do not have severe psychological problems there are plenty of resources for self care. The resources in this lesson will point you in the right direction If you are willing to do a significant amount of therapeutic work for yourself, you will be able to find excellent psychotherapists who are good facilitators, using the formal in-office therapy session as a springboard for the more important and extensive “homework” done by the client independently. The resources will help you find such a therapist.


Great is the man who does not lose his child’s heart.
The Center for Creative Growth is a good place to start exploring healing of the wounds of childhood.